Eight Key Factors to Consider When Choosing a Guardian for Your Children

Who should raise your children if you or your spouse are unable to do so? It’s a difficult and deeply personal question, but if you have young children, it’s a critical part of your estate planning. And, if you don’t put a plan in place, then a court will pick someone for you, which might not align with your wishes or your children’s best interests.

When selecting a guardian, consider the following factors carefully:

Does the person have a genuine interest in your children’s well-being?
Look for someone who has demonstrated genuine care and affection for your children and shares a strong emotional bond with them.
Do they share your values, beliefs, and parenting philosophy?
A guardian who aligns with your moral, educational, disciplinary, and cultural values will likely provide a smoother transition for your children.
Are they capable of handling the role physically, emotionally, and financially?
Evaluate their ability to manage the demands of raising children. If financial resources are a concern, ensure your estate plan includes provisions to support them.
Do they already have children of their own?
A person with children may have valuable parenting experience, but consider whether they can balance the needs of their family with the added responsibility of your children.
Where do they live, and how will that impact your children?
A change in location could mean new schools, new friends, and a new environment. Consider whether a move would increase the stress of losing their parents.
Is it important for all your children to share the same guardian?
Most parents prefer their children to remain together. However, if significant age differences or other factors suggest otherwise, you could consider appointing separate guardians.
Would a split responsibility arrangement be best?
In some cases, appointing one person to act as the personal guardian (handling day-to-day care) and another to manage financial matters (as Conservator or Trustee) may be the most practical solution.
Have you discussed this responsibility with the person?
Above all, it’s essential to have an open and honest conversation. Ensure the guardian is not only willing but fully prepared to take on this role.

By thoughtfully addressing these factors, you can help ensure your children are cared for by someone who truly cares for your children, and who raise your children to develop the values and priorities that you want your children to have.

Planning for Peace of Mind

We’ve guided many families through the process of selecting the right guardians and crafting the legal documents to protect their wishes. Contact us today to begin this important discussion and create a plan tailored to your family’s unique needs.